Saturday, November 19, 2011

Yayyy

My Dearest Adonys,

I do not have too much to say other then, were having a baby!!!!! Mommee found out that she is having another baby which makes her very happy in light of all that is going on! I still miss you like crazy and want you with me and although this baby could never replace you hopefully he will make me just as happy as u did. We will name him Langstyn Adonys Wilson. Ur grammy said she thinks it may be a girl or twins, what a joy it will be to have you and Nyrei back in my life, I am confident though that it will at least be a boy. Secretly I hope it is you growing inside me again ready to reunite with ur Mommee, I hope openly that God and you have heard my prayers and wishes and seen fit to grant them, to grant u and I another chance with each other. I thank God that he blessed me with a real life Angel and hope that this time around it will be different for us that I will get to see you and ur sisters and brother grow to be beautiful, inteligent people whom live furfilling lives well, well into old age. You have always been an Angel to me and always will be just hopefully this time with out the time limit on your life or wings lol. Adonys please be you, please come back to us, we love and miss you so much and I need and want my Angel to help me grow to be better at everything that crosses my path. God thank you in advance for this second chance with my son I know that you will never let me down in anything I ask of you and I am asking this of you as one of the many things that you will do for me and bless me with ,please return my children to me (Adonys Hasane Wilson & Nyrei Blu Dowdell). I know they belong to you eternally but I would like if I could to keep until we are all ripe into old, old age and have lived a wonderful life. In your name I pray-AMEN!!!!!

Adonys & Nyrei Mommee loves you both and will see you very soon 
sometime around July 11, 2012 to be exact LOVE YOU ALL  

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Missing you

Adonys,

Hey my baby, I miss you so much it hurts! This week has been an increasingly hard one for me. It's just hard waking up everyday and not being able to see your smiling face or hear you call out to me. I think what am I to do and of course everyone else would be like keep busy, try not to think about it, but how can I not think about it. To do that would be to not think about you and how can I not think of my best friend in the whole world besides your dad. Im so confused Adonys and sometimes I know exactly what direction I am going in and then all of a sudden I will crack and the walls start caving  in and I cant breathe. When I started this temp job yesterday, I felt so uncomfortable and I did not know why and then I came in this morning and looked up and knew that it was because of the pictures of the kids on the wall staring back at me, distant, lifeless eyes and I thought about you and I cried and cried. Then I called your dad and he asked me to stick it out because we need the money and we do but is it worth the price of my sanity? I hate that I feel this way, I hate crying everytime a child walks past me, I hate not being able to go places sometimes because im scared im gonna freak out, but most of all I hate being here without you, it is like torture. Im struggling babe, the devil playing with my head and I need you to tell Jesus to make him stop, to make him go away. Please come back Adonys, we need you here just as you were when you left, please make your way back, beg Jesus and our Father to let you come back. Maybe the life you were gonna have was not a good one and maybe because of your death our lives will be better in the long run, but if you come back i can garauntee that it will be the best life that any of us could live, filled with love and hope and family and great times, tell him Adonys i promise!

I LOVE YOU- MOMMEE

P.s. Was that a sign from him yesterday, if so keep em coming!

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Missing You

My Dear Adonys,

It has been 20 days since my last letter and it is not that I have not been thinking of you, it is just that it hurts so much sometimes to talk to you. Anyway your dad and I have been seeing this councelor for that last couple of weeks amd she is great, she is helping us get through this the best way we can. Nyjha will start therapy in a couple of days. I cant say that I have a whole lot to talk about because I dont. I start school again on Monday and hopefully I can actually finish without distractions this time. Your sister is convinced that you will be back, I am too but im not sure if it is because I just want you back so bad or because it will be true. Perhaps Nyjha knows what I dont but me baby I am just gonna have to trust GOD and know that he will answer my prayer and test my faith no longer. I believe GOD, I know that you are the creator and your son is the provider, so please hear and answer my prayer and send my babies back to me so I can again hold them and love them in my arms and not just my mind. AMEN

Love you- Mommee

Ps- Sorry I did not have to much gab for you baby but I promise we will talk more on Sunday when we come and see you and then more after I start class on Monday!

Friday, March 4, 2011

How Do You Mend A Broken Heart?

My Dear Adonys,

Hi my baby mommee misses you so much! Last time I wrote you I was in a pretty confused state of mind and I am not ashamed to say nothing has changed. Since the last time I worte your dad and I have been to see a counselor, her name is Cathy Cooper, she is a nice lady and does not sugar coat the truth about your death. She did not tell us that it was going to be ok, it was going to get better, or that it will ever stop hurting, which are all the things that people have told us over the last 2 months. I learned that I have been trying to surpress my feelings and rush them along so that I do not have to feel this burn, I have been doing this mainly because I have not wanted to come to grips with you really being gone and also because I hate for people to see me cry. At first it was not hitting us so hard because we were still in denial but now this pain is just so much worse because the truth is apparent. I cry alot, sometimes out loud and sometimes just on the inside. I cry because outside of your dad you were my best friend and I think of all the things that I will never get to see you do like your first day of school, your graduation, how you would have turned out as an adult or jsut how cool I know you would have been. Last week Nyjha was out of school so your dad and I decided to take her to the Smithsonian. In the process of walking there was this couple with their children a little girl and her brother, it reminded me so much of how you and Nyjha were and would have been, what with her always trying to boss you around and you being like "Im gonna do my own thing" but ultimately protecting each other I could not do anything other than smile but there was such a sadness in the smile because Nyjha no longer has her playmate, do not get me wrong she still plays with you every chance she gets and I know you play back, but I cant play with you and that makes me sad. When we were about to leave I got a lil happy again because there was this lil boy just playing and acting wild and running around, it was so cute, but then that too also turned to sadness because you would have loved to be at the Smithsonian, and that is not a joy that I will ever get to personally experience with you while you are exploring and acting like a lil crazy person. I get so sad Adonys, I get so sad and I want to just bury myself underneath the Earth and cuddle with you and protect you. The day we had to go and veiw you I thought I should just pick him up and run away, I thought the same thing the day went away too but what would that do you would nevr beable to talk to me, play with me, eat with me and you are sleeping forever. I think the only thing that keeps me sane is the hope, dream, prayer and thought that you are going to come back to us and we will be whole again because right now we are missing such a vital and important piece to our puzzle of a family and I need it to be put back. Please come back to us Adonys, we need you and we love you, I know it sounds so selfish but I promise I will protect you from this shitty world just like we will always protect your sister.

LOVE YOU- MOMMEE

Monday, February 21, 2011

Dreams

My beautiful Adonys,

Hi mommees boy, I miss you like crazy! This week was not such a bad week, I ain't saying it was a wonderful one but it was better than last week. I just felt OK this week is all it is, Auntie Ree and Ashley took me and your daddy out this Saturday, I did have a blast. It was so much fun not to have to constantly try and think for a change, everyone was there (Terri, Bell, Shell, Missy) and I appreciated them attempting to make me feel better. As to be expected though all good things come to an end and when I wake up every morning with you on my mind and tears in my eyes, I miss you soooo much and I get mad because just seeing your picture or watching a video is not good enough for me, I get sooo pissed off when I wake up because I have not dreamt about you and I want to every night because at least if I dream about you, at least if I see you there it will be the closest I get to touching you, seeing you, hearing you and holding you again. I have to tell you something, the night that you left me I shooed you away before I left out the house and I am so so so so sorry and I wish I could take it back, I wish I had just taken you with me but I just needed a break, I just needed some me time because you were just soo fast and busy and I used to be sooo worn out from chasing you and pulling you down from where ever you climbed up on, you were so curious, beyond curious for real, it was like you knew somethings that the rest of us did not know. I was always so amazed at how fearless you were, at how much love you exuded for even people you did not know. Do you remember that day we went to court and that lady was just crying and crying and you walked over to her and gave this great, big , huge hug and she stopped crying because you made her feel soo good, you were something special. Even though GOD had a plan for you, I had one to, I had dreams for you  and Nyjha that would have completely exceeded any dreams that your dad or I ever had. I often imagine the things that you would have or could have been and I weep because I will never get to see you do any of these things, I will never get to see you the true potential of your intelligence, we only got to see a small piece. These reasons are all the reasons that I ask God to please return you to us so that you can save us and maybe the entire world because I think you were and would have been an influential spark here later in life just as your were soo early in life. Whoever reads this may think that I am delusional, crazy or whatever but I don't care, I don't care, that is my prayer and wish to God, if I never have nothing else or never do anything else I pray that God hears me and brings my prayer to fruition. Your sister with some work and help from me and dad will be fine, I pray for God to give your sister the strength to focus because she hurts too. You know mommee loves your forever and a day.

Love Mommee

P.S., Adonys even if God never sees fit to send you back to me, I pray that he will see fit to send me a boy that is just like you in every way possible and is embodied with your very same spirit, intelligence, beauty and curiosity, someone just like you and more! I hope he looks like you and has your attitude, love and caring. Someone that will take care of me now and show me how to be a better parent just like you were and take care of me later in older age just like I know that you would have. Someone to make me laugh, stay on my toes, wear me out and make me love and love me more than I thought was possible just like you!     

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Projects

Adonys,

I have had a very difficult couple of days. Well first happy valentines day, I got you something, it is sitting up on your shelf with teddy, tiger and panda. I was ok on valentines day, at least that is the way people are seeing me. The truth is Adonys underneath all my smiles and giggles, I am slowly falling apart at the seams. I have to be careful where I go and I walk with my head down most of the time for fear that I will come across something or someone that will remind me of you and I will be emotionlly crushed, right now I am emotionally flacid, which is how I am able to make it appear as though I am ok, but I know I am not. I have all these projects I do, some dedicated in your name (things I made for you), some for my own personal ammusment to help "cope" with you being really gone. Projects, projects, projects beautiful or nice as they may be do not seem to be doing too much, emotionally crushed does not begin to explain or define my feelings. Before you went I knew exactly what I was doing, didnt know how I was gonna get there but I knew what I wanted and now I am so stripped, drained, lost in the wind that it is frightening. I relive you being snatched away from me right in fornt of my very eyes everyday, every single day and I cant get past it. My brain and body are just so tired, they play tricks on me from the time I wake until I lay down at night, I think I hear you in the hallway all the time, running up and down, I hear you playing with the door knob too, around 1:00 everyday I tell myself to go get you up from your nap and then my feelings are hurt because you are not there, when ever the basement door is open I rush over to close it for fear that you will be your fearless self and try to go down them, but again your not there. I feel so trapped but what can I do my feelings and emotions are my own and I cant move them along, I would like too just push them completely away, but this is not like getting over a ex-boyfriend, the pain is way greater than that, it is even greater than the pain of bringing you in this world, that was like a very small and thin nonexistent  peice of cake compared to this. I do not wanna be like this forever but I fear that I will never come out, because whenever I feel better something comes along in that next day or second or hour or minute brings a feeling of deppression and sadness that is 100 times worse than the previous feeling and even though I will get past that feeling too, a little peice of it will be left to collect with the rest of the sadness left over until it completely consumes me.  Adonys I never thought that I could love somebody this much and survive it, some people say I am doning an excellent job, I say that I am damaged goods, crippled and unable to develop any further past this line of black space. Help me Adonys you always knew how to make mommee better, what do I do?

Love Mommee

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

The Sweetness of a Would be Bitter Weekend

Dear Adonys,

I miss you! It was mommee's birthday this past weekend! I had a conversation with an old aquaintance and I was telling her that I had not had a moment of bittersweetness as of yet, I did not expect for that moment to come so soon. I thought that I would be just too depressed over you to even enjoy any stage of life let alone my 30th birthday. I especially thought that this day would be one of my worst becuase it was a month to the day that you left us but I had a lot of fun, I went to a large dinner, a party, and got to spend some much needed alone time with your dad. Im am crying the tears right now that I could not cry that day because for some reason as much as I wanted to cry and scream for you something comforted me the whole weekend through! I really wish that you could have been there, only you, your dad and God really know how I feel. The weekend and your dad did me good but once it was over, it was back to life, back to reality! I find myself in recent days thinking of you intensely but not always wanting to cry, not saying that I dont cry because I do. You were just so full of personality, character, and wonder and that is what I miss. You were my little expeditionist, always exploring things and being scoulded because I could never be mad at you, you were just too much fun, you made me laugh at least 17 hours out of a 24 hour day! I go back to school on the 28th of March and I know that during this period from here until then, it will give me the time I need to do what I have to. People will probably wonder why am I speaking too as if you could understand me, as if you were an adult, but what they do not know is that you were wise and intelligent beyond your years and this is just a average conversation between the two of us just different content. It didnt matter what I talked about, you understood every word, and you were my best friend and partner in crime & randomness! That is a relationship only you and I could possess, it still is, I talk to you everyday but I only feel compelled to speak to you like this when your spirit really hits me and I think that maybe there is somebody out there, besides your dad, that maybe feels the same about the person they loved & lost and maybe wants to say something that will help me, help them, help me. I DO sooo miss you and your smile, please show mommee that you are smiling at her, when the sun hits the highest point in the sky and just warms my body down to it's very soul I will know that you are smiling at me and loving me from a distance and that distance will only last a short amount of time before you come back too love me up close!  

~ MOMMEE

Saturday, January 29, 2011

All Mommee's

I have no idea where to begin with this, all I know is that the pain I feel is never ending and it hurts like hell. Not a person for words that flow from my mouth, I get out my frustrations through words that flow on paper or computer, even if I am the only person in the world to ever post on this I will continue on. Always the person to give great advice, I must admit that I never follow my own. But how do you advise yourself on how to feel, when the feeling is pain and so great that a thousand swords would feel like a mere prick from a needle's point! Hopefully this blog or whatever will find whoever it needs too and give them the power they need to purge all their painful thoughts and feelings and in the midst of it all help me too. I spelled mommee the way I did because that was the first word out of Adonys' mouth when he woke up and the last word he said before bed at night, it is spelled the way he said it with an emphasize on the two mm's and ee's. Please, talk to me mother's, father's, grandparents, friends, whoever, I think we could use and need each others words and company, so how do you feel out there?